The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
Genre: Self-help book, Self Development Books
First Published on: 13 September 2016
Followed by: Everything Is Fucked
About The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck:
At the beginning of the book, the author talks about the feedback loop of hell. Here Manson explains that the more you desperately want to pursue something means you lack it in the first place. Ultimately, this creates a negative situation. Hence you suffer more.
Instead, you should be open about your insecurities. Acceptance will make you more confident and charismatic. Not everything matters and not everything needs your attention. Somethings should be accepted as it is. Eventually, you will see the change within you and in your life too.
The author mentions that life is full of problems. Happiness comes only by solving them. How do we solve the problems?
The first step to solving the problem is acceptance. We need to accept that it’s your responsibility to acknowledge and face it. Eventually, which responsibility comes the power. It will give you more courage to solve and face any given situation in life.
Metrics for happiness differ from person to person. For some, it is more money. For some, it is fame. And For some it is peace. The metrics vary from one person to another.
He preaches someone willing to fail can only succeed. If we are willing to fail then only we are willing to succeed. This is possible by learning each time we fail. Failure is the way forward.
My Thoughts & Book Review:
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck book created a lot of buzz on social sites. I saw many celebrities reading it and posting the book cover on their social media handles.
The book cover and the name is something that will grab your attention. Because of its growing popularity, I finally decided to read it.
There are plenty of books that have constantly guided and taught us about being positive. And how we can be positive even in any negative situation or circumstances.
However, this book preaches not to be positive always. Instead, it urges us to accept and embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties. It says if you think about the pain, you create more pain. Therefore, we should accept and don’t give any importance to it.
There are many short stories to engage readers. The author has used many characters like Onoda, Suzuki, and Uncle Ben (from Spiderman) which will hook the readers with the pages of the book.
Manson has described the metrics of happiness with an example of the band Megadeth. The instance is powerful and inspiring. He also mentioned Malala Yousafzai’s story to explain how one should respond to their life tragedy.
In the last chapter, the author gave the story of Josh, and his words~~“why do you care that I am dead when you are still so afraid to live?” ~~made me realize that we should never stop living, no matters what life brings to us.
I would recommend you to read the book if you want to understand why thinking positively will not help you always.
It will help you to introspect and have a different outlook or approach towards life.
This book will change your thoughts, and you will start appreciating everything around with a grateful mindset.
About the Author:
Mark Manson is an American self-help author and blogger. Manson started his first blog about dating advice in 2008.
As of 2019, he had authored three books. Two of which, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, and Everything Is Fucked: A Book About Hope, were The New York Times bestsellers. His books have sold over 13 million copies.
Quotes From The Book:
“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
“If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.”
“But a true and accurate measurement of one’s self-worth is how people feel about the negative aspects of themselves.”
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